There are times when you just don’t know what to say. When those we care for are going through difficulties or life-changing moments in their life, we want to reach out–to touch in some way–and to show them how much we care.
But it’s hard to come up with the right words or the right things to do that will be helpful to them. Remember that your words don’t have to be poetic. Every kind word and thought, that comes from a friend, is precious.
From receiving a cup of tea in bed to simply being asked if we’re OK, it’s often the little things that make a person feel most loved.
Forget huge gestures – the best ways to show someone you care are all remarkably simple.
A spontaneous hug, giving a compliment and saying ‘I love you’ all feature in the top ten, proving that it’s often gestures that require the smallest effort that have the biggest impact.
Here are some suggestions. Read through them with an open mind and you’ll probably think of others to add. If so, email them to me and I’ll add them to the list.
Send a Card
This is the first thing we usually think of. But don’t just sign your name. Even if you only say, “I’m thinking of you” or “I thought of you when I read this card”, the few caring words can make a big difference.
But make that card even more special by:
- Adding a photograph of a happier time or place
- Add a comic strip that fits the occasion
- Share a special memory
- Tell them why they inspire you.
- Include a gift card or gift certificate for a favorite restaurant, a movie theater, a massage, or even for a hot fudge sundae at McDonalds
Send a Gift
A gift doesn’t have to be large or expensive — just meaningful. It could even be small enough to include with the card. How about:
- A small box of Chocolates
- A Teddy Bear to hug
- An angel pin
- A token gift of something that is meaningful to both of you
- A one-pot serving of a special coffee, tea, chai, or hot cocoa
- Include a mug and a meaningful card with the beverage
- A gift certificate created by you offering a ride or just a time to talk.
- Drop a casserole by their home — to serve for dinner or stick in the freezer.
- Make a playlist of songs they like.
- Purchase or make 30 inexpensive gifts (a candy bar, a package of hot cocoa, a rock with a saying on it, etc), wrap each of them and put a number on each one. Put in a gift box with a note telling them that they should open one gift each day for the next month.
- Give a hug
- Call and ask how they are doing. Sometimes it helps to just talk about it to a friend. Make sure that they know that it’s okay not to just answer “Fine.”
- Offer to take them to lunch or even just out for coffee
- Offer to babysit if they have small children.
- Offer to go shopping for them.
- Post a nice post about them on social media.
- Mow their lawn, shovel the snow from their driveway
- Look them in the eye and say, “I really appreciate you—just for being you.”
- Send them a text that reads, “Thought of you today and it made me smile.”
- Write a “Happy Note” just for them. This could be a love note or an inspirational note or maybe even just a fun cute note to make them giggle. Stick it in their coat pocket, their lunch pail, tape it to their cell phone cover or wherever you know they will find it easily.
- Spend quality time with them doing something that they enjoy.
Life continues. Life-changing events happen to each and every one of us. And it’s all too easy to let those moments, that can mean so much to someone, slip past without our saying a word.